Men need protection too: Activists seek bill in Parliament

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New Delhi, May 26: The Save Indian Family Foundation (SIFF) which has taken up the cause of Men's Rights is seeking a private bill in Parliament to enact a law for protection of men from domestic violence.

The bill is being sought in the wake of a survey by the National Family Health Survey (NFHS) finding that about 1.8% or an estimated 60 lakh women have perpetrated physical violence against husbands without any provocation. However, men are more likely to be threatened and attacked by male relatives of the wife than the wife herself.

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Men need protection:

Rajesh Vakharia, President of SIFF informed Oneindia that in most countries, the laws against domestic violence provide protection to both men and women. Men can also seek restraining orders from courts, which restrain the abusive partner or wife from perpetrating abuse and even contacting the victim.

However, in India family violence against men is almost legal as there is no provision in any law to protect a man, who faces violence from wife or other female family members, Vakharia says.

This situation is mainly due to the patriarchal thinking in the society, that men are stronger than women and they can defend themselves with physical force. It's high time India keeps pace with the rest of the world and makes the laws against domestic violence gender neutral.

Men want a bill:

"We are talking with a couple of MPs to submit a private member bill in the parliament to start the steps towards enacting a law for protection of men from domestic violence. It is long overdue. Recently, there was a debate about issues about marital rape. To keep pace with these developments, there has to be a policy to prevent family violence against men." says Rajesh Vakharia.

"Most abused men do not run away from their abusers and apply divorce, because they are either afraid of losing access to their children or they are afraid of getting implicated in false cases of dowry harassment," he also points out.

As there is a lot of social stigma towards men abused by women, most of the male victims do not come out in open and do not share their ordeal with family, friends or colleagues. Male victims of domestic violence are ridiculed and considered as unmanly. Such thinking is chauvinistic and it is harmful.

The types of violence men face:

-Physical violence like slapping, pushing, hitting by wife, her parents or relatives.

-Wife threatening suicide to intimidate and control the husband.

-Verbal abuse if husband remains in contact with his parents or comes home late from work.

-Throwing objects like utensils, cell phones and crockery at the husband.

-Abuse gets worse if husband avoids sex after a day of violence or threats.

-Threatening to create a ruckus in the neighborhood and threatening to jail him in false cases.

Women have anger issues:

Virag Dhulia who heads the Confidare India which runs a crisis centre for abused men says that many women have serious anger management issues. They also seem to bring the stress of the workplace to the home.

This is one of the main reasons of domestic violence against men. The other reasons include intolerance and anger at non-fulfillment of expectations. Sometimes, inability of husband to meet monetary demands of wife also leads to abuse and violence."

"Male victims of family violence go through low self esteem and their performance at workplace suffers. Thousands of such men are approaching psychiatrists, who are not of much help, when a law to provide protection to men and restraint the women does not exist," he says.

Most parents of women blame the son-in-law for the breakdown of the marriage, without accepting that their daughter is abusive or she has serious anger management issues. They somehow think their daughter can never be wrong and expect the son-in-law to tolerate her. They get violent at son-in-law to teach him a lesson or seek revenge.

Police rarely accept any complaints filed by husband about the violence he is suffering, claiming that this is a family issue. They also refuse to provide any protection to the man.

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